What does it mean to religiously attend church, temple or synagogue, live in a community where G-d’s laws are first and foremost, and then deliberately go on the internet in order to break one of the most sacred of commandments: ?
Jennie Rosenfeld, co-founder of Tzelem, a Yeshiva University sexual education program for the Orthodox community, said her initial reaction was sadness.
For whatever reason, they feel they are unable to leave the marriage and they are turning to this.
This site is not a Jewish solution or a lasting solution, and not dealing with the underlying issues,” says Jennie Rosenfeld, co-founder of Tzelem, a Yeshiva University sexual education program for the Orthodox community. Something is deeply wrong, problematic in the marriage they are in.
is tailored mainly to the religious and Jewish seeking extramarital affairs.
Though the site is only two months old, — with the tag line, “Jews Can Have Fun Too” — already has 2,500 members paying $99 annually for the right to log on and seek out other married people interested in having an affair.
“People always like to think that we are holier than thou,” Jerry said, who himself is a member of the Orthodox community.
“Our community has the same needs as any other community — dating, drugs, cheating or whatever, and it’s silly to think we are ‘different.'” In fact, many people are surprised these affairs are taking place within tight-knit religious communities.
In the past, philandering religious men went to strip clubs and so-called “kosher” brothels to retreat from their wives in secret.
But there appears to be a trend of religious men and women seeking out affairs online; and one man has founded a website tailored specifically to his community’s needs.
“Every day I would see ads on Craigslist from the “frum” [religious Jewish] community.
My wife and I started talking to them and realized there was a big need for this,” said Jerry (who does not wish to disclose his last name for safety), founder of