Bishop Denis Nulty, Bishop of Kildare and Leighlin and President of ACCORD Catholic Marriage Care Service, has blessed engaged couple Ms Deirdre Eighan from Rochfortbridge, Mullingar, and Mr Sean Whelan from Ballinea, Mullingar at the Shrine of Saint Valentine in the Church of Our Lady of Mount Carmel in Dublin today.
“I also want to note how damaging criticisms and insults can be in a relationship – they poison a relationship.
It is a great support that an agency like ACCORD, set up by the Catholic Church here in Ireland over fifty years ago, is there to support an individual or a couple who experience such problems.” Bishop Nulty concluded by saying: “ACCORD is privileged to be trusted by the Irish people to care for marriage and family life through our schools’ work, our marriage preparation courses, our counselling and our personal enrichment courses.
We look forward to continuing this service as an agency of the Irish Catholic Bishops’ Conference long into the future.” Today’s blessing of the engaged couple took place at the Shrine of Saint Valentine where Holy relics of Saint Valentine are interred in the Carmelite Church in Whitefriar Street, Dublin.
Society should also be very interested in the key findings of counselling trends that ACCORD are publishing today.” As part of the event today in Dublin ACCORD published a report on counselling entitled ‘ Accord also published (i) a Regional Breakdown of Sacramental Marriage Preparation Attendance and Marriage Counselling Sessions 2012 to 2015, (ii) Sacramental Marriage Preparation – Attendance 2012-2015 and (iii) Marriage & Relationship Counselling 2012-2015. Commenting on the reports issued today Bishop Denis Nulty said: “A few red line issues stand out for me from these findings; one is that the breakdown of communication continues to be a key problem which leads couples and individuals to need the services and support of ACCORD.
We shouldn’t be surprised at this; when a couple stop talking, all they hear is the sound of silence, and this in itself is a huge contributory factor to stress and anxiety in a relationship.
The breakdown of communication simply defined as “not listening” or “being ignored”, has sadly increased in its relevance for couples from 48% to 58% in the past nine years.“It seems to suggest the more communicative devices we have in life, the less communicative we are in our relationships.A good sacramental Marriage Preparation course allows an individual or a couple to identify triggers in their relationship that could lead to a breakdown in communication.Good skills learned on a course will stand to a couple for life.” Bishop Nulty went on to say: “It is also interesting to note from this Amárach research the increasing high incidence of telecommunications related problems.Texting didn’t even feature as an issue of concern back in 2007; last year 21% of those counselled by ACCORD saw it as an issue of huge concern.Perhaps in time to come the effect of Instagram, Snapchat or tweeting in the relationships of today will become more evident.